World Wide Woes

You may well have heard this radio recording or seen the series of texts which features in the recording . In brief, it’s a series of texts from a girl after a date which just turn increasingly crazy in that post-date are-we-going-to-have-another-date limbo – ranging from optimism to despair at his lack of a reply, a series of insane apologies, anger, rage, hope, another invitation on another date, more apologies, rage and despair.

I can’t really convey the whole thing so you’ll just have to listen to it/read it and I suggest you do. On one level, it’s quite funny. If this were genuinely a spoof, it would be hilarious. But every time I see mention of these texts on the internet, I just feel very sorry for the woman involved. Clearly she’s been on a date, liked her partner and thought something was going on which wasn’t. I can completely understand the rollercoaster of emotions she goes on – we’ve all been there, although I think most of us wouldn’t narrate that rollercoaster via text, pretend we were sending ‘wrong number’ texts to make said date jealous or worried, or wind up outside our intended’s house in the small hours to ‘apologise’ or ‘sort things out’. Arguably poor JJ could have behaved better.

To be honest, that’s pretty much it. I recognise the feelings she obviously felt in the situation, she didn’t handle it well but equally she clearly knows that, and the whole thing went badly wrong. That would be sad enough and I hope she had better luck with the next guy. But how much worse must she have felt when Kevin posted the whole thing on the internet, and it went viral?

Frankly, JJ, you might be a little loopy, but you deserve way better than Kevin. We can all sympathise, and frankly I think what Kevin did was completely out of order. I hope the poor girl has better luck (and manages to behave more calmly!) next time. But meanwhile I don’t think it’s nice of us – as human beings who by and large consider ourselves fairly reasonable, decent types, good friends to have, and so on – to laugh at this. Or is that squeamish of me?



Filed under Uncategorized

2 responses to “World Wide Woes

  1. Of course, there is a school of thought that would say that she was not really aware of just how she came across, and that given that response after a first date almost any guy would run for the hills (those that wouldn’t probably have issues of their own). Although posting the texts on the web is extreme, pointing out exactly how outrageous her text stalking is might actually be beneficial to her future relationship chances. I don’t agree with the method but I agree with the principle.*

    The girl needs help. I don’t say that cruelly – quite the opposite. I’d wish for her to get ahead in life; it sounds like she’s been trampled on a few times too many and perhaps talking it through with someone would be useful.

    On the other hand, what do I know? It’s a one-sided slew of texts from an unknown source on the internet. It could mean anything.

    *a principled stand probably not being amongst Kevin’s main aims, sure.

  2. That is a fair point but I wonder if to an extent it seems like she already knows that she’s been completely cuckoo about the whole situation…? But either way, completely agreed – in a non-cruel way, she needs to sort herself out. It’s possible that she’s been hurt fairly recently or one times too many and actually that she’ll have the self-awareness to think all this through herself and comport herself more normally next time round :). Here’s hoping.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )


Connecting to %s